At the age of 14 years old I became pregnant. There is no fairy tale here or scandal. I literally got pregnant my first time having sex. I gave birth to a health 7 pound 10 ounce baby girl at the age of 15. I had her natural and my mom was in the room with me, she actually cut the cord. I was a little girl holding a little girl in my hands way too young to understand what I was about to encounter.
When I found out I was pregnant I told no-one at first. Eventually I confided in my closest friend because I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t want to lose my virginity I felt like I had no choice but to say yes. I had no clue about sex whatsoever. I left him after that terrible experience and we never got back together no matter how much he tried.
As hilarious and ok as MTV tries to make teen pregnancy and being a teen mom, it is not all glorious and wonderful. It is a struggle every day. My daughter is now 16 years old and man have we been on one hell of a journey. The things I promised myself was that I was going to start speaking my truth and a part of that is talking about what made me who I am today. I am a teen mom that is now 31 and doing my best. If I could change anything it wouldn’t be having my daughter it would be when.
No teenager should be a mom, they are not ready for adulthood or being a parent. My daughter lost out on a normal childhood because I was still a child myself. It was hard and we went through a lot together. When I finally realized what the hell I was doing she was 10 I was 25 and I wonder if now its too late?
If I could sit down and talk to teenage girls and boys right now I would tell them what I went through and why all of the talk of safe sex and abstaining were for a reason when you are young. This world is so focused on sexualizing everything they don’t realize how badly it is harming our children. Its time to educate them in a way that is real in a way that they will comprehend because they aren’t made of glass and educating them is really important!